The Gothic Wedding ceremony of My Desires

Howdy, lovely creatures! I’ve acquired some improbable information to share. Final weekend, I had the gothic marriage ceremony of my desires and married my associate Dave. I’ve been holding out on you a bit of bit as a result of he and I acquired engaged on Valentine’s Day, 2022. As a result of on-line harassment and stalking I’ve been coping with, I didn’t really feel comfy sharing this till now. 

Dave and I knew we didn’t need a conventional marriage ceremony that held little which means to us. As an alternative, we determined to plan a gothic marriage ceremony that will be as distinctive and memorable as we’re. Dave and I labored collectively on our record of necessities. He needed the marriage to be underneath the moonlight, and I needed it outside. I researched upcoming full moons and steered the Pink Moon because it was on a Saturday night and excellent for New Beginnings. I reached out to Raprager Household Farms to see if they’d an acceptable out of doors area and determined upon their Butterfly Backyard.

I don’t have our official images again from the photographer but, so please take pleasure in these candid photographs by my family and friends till then.

Easy methods to Plan the Wedding ceremony of Your Desires

Dave and Cordelia waiting to recite their wedding vows

Our predominant objective was to have a marriage that was significant to us and to not spend an infinite sum of money on the occasion. We needed a marriage with lower than 50 friends, an out of doors venue due to the continued world pandemic, and an exquisite moonlit night time. Neither of us discovered an extended ceremony interesting, so we requested our officiant to make it quick, candy, and to the purpose. Each of us needed beautiful outfits we might put on once more. I wanted to get good images of everybody who attended, so I knew we would wish to arrange a inexperienced display screen space.

While you’re engaged on planning the marriage of your desires, whether or not you will have a modest finances or a limiteless one, I extremely advocate specializing in what’s necessary to you and creating your distinctive marriage ceremony expertise round that. Please don’t persist with traditions until they’ve which means to you. We knew that for us to have the gothic marriage ceremony of our desires it meant we would have liked good music, scrumptious desserts, trendy outfits, and a brief ceremony. From my earlier marriage ceremony expertise, I knew that bodily invites weren’t necessary to me. We didn’t need a reward registry as a result of we’re already a longtime family. And I’m not large on marriage ceremony favors, so we skipped them and lots of different marriage ceremony traditions.

I’m so grateful to all of my family and friends who helped us with our marriage ceremony. Particular due to Cary, Carlye, Mickey, Stacia, Gabe, Sera, Chris, Jessie, Tim, Nicola, Cliff, and Nan for all of the coordination on the occasion day.

Our Gothic Wedding ceremony Theme

Our marriage ceremony theme was Unseelie Faerie Queen marries her King underneath the total moonlight within the Butterfly Backyard. Butterflies are an emblem of change, rebirth, hope, and transformation. The Pink Moon signifies new beginnings, a promising begin for our marriage!


As a result of we deliberate our marriage ceremony with a modest finances, I created a {custom} electronic mail with a Pink Moon and palm timber and despatched out e-invitations to our friends. I manually stored observe of RSVPs that we acquired in a spreadsheet.

The Venue

Cordelia and Dave's wedding sign at Rapragar Family Farms

We selected Rapragar Household Farms for our marriage ceremony venue for a number of causes. Rapragar Household Farms is a beautiful place within the Tampa space. They’ve a number of completely different sections of their property which might be appropriate to host a marriage, each indoor and out of doors. We even had a backup location on the property in case of inclement climate, although our climate was close to good.

Rapragar Household Farms was simple to work with. They helped maintain many little particulars, like tablecloths, speaker programs, and lights. That they had a most popular photographer to work with as effectively.

Reserving the marriage at Rapragar Household Farms saved us numerous stress and headache, and it didn’t break the financial institution. We paid a complete of $1580 for the venue, and this included seating and tables for as much as 50 friends, meals tables, coolers and ice, a photographer, and clean-up. We had been on the venue from roughly 7:45 pm till 11 pm.

Inexperienced Display

We arrange a inexperienced display screen on a backdrop stand to take group photographs with everybody who attended. I will probably be taking these images, placing enjoyable and thrilling backgrounds behind everybody, after which getting them printed for a personal marriage ceremony souvenir e-book. I really feel like this can be a extra fashionable tackle the marriage visitor e-book, and it’s extra significant for us.

Micro-Wedding ceremony

Our marriage ceremony was a micro-wedding as a result of we had 39 friends complete, as some people couldn’t make it. We needed to maintain it very small for a number of causes, however primarily so it will be an intimate occasion and never break the financial institution. Everybody who attended our marriage ceremony was vaccinated in opposition to Covid.

Two of my associates traveled very far for my marriage ceremony! One got here from New Zealand and the opposite from Scotland. I’m grateful to all my family and friends who might attend. I do know some had been unable to due to well being issues, which I perceive. I’m unhappy that I couldn’t invite everybody in my pal circles, however I additionally didn’t need to go into debt for this occasion.

Officiant and Witnesses

Witnesses signing the wedding paperwork
From left to proper – Dave, Caryle, Cary, me, Mickey, Dustin

We selected three of our closest associates to be the officiant of the marriage and our witnesses. Cary did an incredible job with our marriage ceremony ceremony. Carlye and Mickey witnessed our marriage for us.

Pre-Ceremony Playlist

I needed the pre-ceremony playlist to be songs we cherished. Dave walked down the aisle to I Put a Spell on You, and I walked down the aisle to Form of You. We picked these songs out collectively due to the lyrics and their meanings for us. You’ll be able to take heed to your complete pre-ceremony playlist right here, adopted by the unique variations of those songs with lyrics.

  1. Nonetheless Alive (Portal) – Vitamin String Quartet
  2. Like a Prayer (Madonna) – Vitamin String Quartet
  3. Depraved Sport (Chris Isaak) – Vitamin String Quartet
  4. Montero (Name me by your Title)(Lil Nas X) – Vitamin String Quartet
  5. Wrecking Ball (Miley Cyrus) – Midnite String Quartet
  6. Carry Me to Life (Evanescence) – Vitamin String Quartet
  7. Stripped (Depeche Mode) – Cairn String Quartet
  8. I Put a Spell on You (Screamin’ Jay Hawkins) – L’Orchestra Cinematique
  9. Form of You (Ed Sheeran) – Vitamin String Quartet

Put up-Ceremony Playlist

Dave and I’ve been obsessive about CamelPhat and ARTBAT since Mickey launched us to their music. We pay attention to those artists every day once we’re figuring out, they usually make us glad. You’ll be able to take heed to the post-ceremony playlist right here.

  1. Cola– CamelPhat & Elderbrook
  2. Sand in Your Sneakers – ARTBAT & Dino Lenny
  3. Fading – ARTBAT & Dino Lenny
  4. Tabu – ARTBAT
  5. Hypercolor (ARTBAT Remix) – CamelPhat, Yannis
  6. You’re So Excessive – Eli & Fur
  7. Dance with My Ghost (Visualiser) that includes Elderbrook – CamelPhat
  8. Lose My Thoughts (ARTBAT Rave Combine) – Pongo
  9. Light – Zhu
  10. Spektrum that includes Ali Love – CamelPhat
  11. Prometheus – ARTBAT
  12. Bondinho Pao de Acucar in Rio de Janeiro for Cercle – ARTBAT

Wedding ceremony Meals & Drink

Glow-in-the-dark cupcake stands

I really like Happiness 101 Bakery, an area indie bakery specializing in gluten-free and dairy-free desserts and I rent them all year long for occasions. We requested Andrea, the proprietor, to make cupcakes and cake pops for our marriage ceremony, and she or he didn’t disappoint! One in every of our associates steered utilizing Liquid Loss of life Glowing Water, and we went with it! We love their message of loss of life to plastic and homicide your thirst. I cherished the rice paper butterfly accents on the cupcakes!

Liquid Death Sparkling Water and Cupcakes

One of many few requests that Rapragar Household Farms had was for us to not deliver glassware out to the farm, as it’s a working farm, and liquid Loss of life Glowing Water helped to stop any glass or plastic bottle mess. We did want champagne flutes for our toasts, so I discovered some glitter champagne flutes on Amazon that suited our function. Dave researched glowing wines to search out the proper prosecco for the occasion.

Beautiful Gluten-free cupcakes

Beneath is what we had:

  1. Black Cherry Cake Pops (4 dozen, gluten-free)
  2. Chocolate Cupcakes with Raspberry Poke, Raspberry Filling & Cream Cheese Icing (25, gluten-free)
  3. Salted Caramel Chocolate Chip Cupcakes (24, gluten-free)
  4. Salted Caramel Cupcake (1, gluten-free)
  5. Liquid Loss of life Glowing Water (100 cans in a mixture of Severed Lime, Berry It Alive, & Unflavored)
  6. Borrasca Prosecco DOCG Brut Glowing Wine (Glowing wine with Bartlett pears and almond notes)
  7. 100 glitter champagne flutes
  8. 200 silver cocktail napkins
  9. Two 4-tier led cupcake stands

For all of the glowing wine, Liquid Loss of life glowing water, 50 gourmand marriage ceremony cupcakes, 48 gourmand cake pops, champagne flutes, napkins, and cake stands, we paid $896.12.

Gothic Wedding ceremony Apparel

Carlye, Cordelia, Melissa and Cary together.
From left to proper: Carlye, Cordelia, Melissa and Cary

I knew I needed a gothic couture gown that I’d put on once more, whereas Dave knew he needed a {custom} go well with that he would put on once more. None of these single-use outfits for us. I turned to Etsy for gown inspiration, by no means anticipating my finest pal Carlye to supply to make my marriage ceremony apparel. 

Our marriage ceremony colours had been purple and teal blue. We requested that our friends gown in purple, blue or black if doable. They regarded improbable!

Glow-in-the-Darkish Faerie Bouquet

Iridescent Galaxy Roses

My Galaxy Rose Glow in the Dark Wedding Bouquet Glowing Bouquet Wedding Dress on Cordelia

I’m allergic to pollen and never an enormous fan of stay flowers. I wasn’t positive I needed a bouquet for my marriage ceremony however determined {that a} glow-in-the-dark bouquet that I might preserve after the marriage would make it significant. I bought ten led galaxy roses to create my bouquet. I’m so glad I made this resolution! I really like how the glow-in-the-dark bouquet regarded for the out of doors moonlight marriage ceremony.

My pal Chris helped me rewrap the led across the galaxy roses to profit from how they give the impression of being. He then hot-glued the wires in place on the backside of the roses, making it simpler to bundle the flowers collectively to create my bouquet. Carlye, after all, helped me create the proper wrap to go across the bouquet for my gothic marriage ceremony.

Dave’s Customized Outfit

Dave's Custom Gothic Wedding Suit
My candy pal Nicola took this photograph of Dave. It’s when he first noticed me in my marriage ceremony outfit.

Dave knew he needed a purple and black gothic marriage ceremony go well with, and he turned to Fashionable Tailor to get custom-made clothes. Dave has been on a health journey over the previous a number of years as I’ve, so it’s good to have the ability to get him a go well with that matches his physique.

Since we want sustainable vogue, Dave chosen a {custom} black Australian wool go well with with a mao lapel. He picked a purple {custom} shirt with black trim. He loves the shirt match and magnificence a lot he plans to order a number of different shirts sooner or later in numerous colours.

Dave researched high-quality footwear and located the Mogavero Ealdwine x Shoenable Collaboration boots to be his good marriage ceremony shoe. These footwear are made out of black shell cordovan leather-based. We spent round $1166.25 on Dave’s ring and full marriage ceremony outfit. Dave had been saving up his Amazon credit score for some time and cashed out $800 value of factors, protecting most of the price of his footwear with that credit score.

My Customized Gothic Wedding ceremony Outfit

Cordelia in her Unseelie Faerie Queen Wedding Dress

Carlye knew I needed a black marriage ceremony gown with accents of my favourite colours – purple, blue, inexperienced, and teal. She created a seven-layer circle skirt petticoat underneath the gothic marriage ceremony gown, created from layers of crinoline, tulle, and energy mesh, in all my favourite colours. We used a lace shapewear bodysuit as the bottom for the beautiful gothic couture gown.

I’m so grateful that Carlye supplied to make me the gothic marriage ceremony gown of my desires. This gown is priceless to me as a result of it’s a reward! She turned me right into a literal murals with this gown!

After I initially confirmed her my inspiration images and described how I needed so as to add some shade, she instantly had the mermaid material in thoughts to create my gown. The mermaid material she used shifts from purple to inexperienced to teal to blue to aqua to gold and is gorgeous! I’m assured she put in round 20 hours of labor on this gown.

I bought these ballroom dance footwear in measurement 8 with 2.5″ heels for my gown. We picked up these non-skid foot soles and hooked up them to my footwear. Carlye then custom-made my dancing footwear to match the gown completely with a mixture of gem stones in purple abdarkish blue abmild inexperienced ab, and inexperienced volcano.

Carlye custom-made my purple tiara and choker with the gem stones for my gothic marriage ceremony outfit. I purchased this darkish blue iridescent clutch for my marriage ceremony purse because it might match my iPhone and coordinated properly with my outfit. We spent round $2563.13 on my outfit and ring, although, as I discussed, my marriage ceremony gown is priceless to me. I’d have simply spent over $3000 on my {custom} gown alone if it was not a marriage reward. 

Dave’s Customized Gothic Wedding ceremony Ring

Dave and I needed distinctive {custom} marriage ceremony rings, and Dave fell in love with the Patrick Adair {custom} rings. We had been in a position to order his {custom} ring shortly, and it took lower than three months to reach.

Dave’s ring is a premium opal glowstone ring with a black ceramic band. It has meteorite and deep area blue and lavender purple opal inlays. The daytime colours are blue and purple, and the glow-in-the-dark shade is aqua. Sure, Dave’s ring glows at nighttime, and I’m not the one one in our household obsessive about glowing!

My Customized Wedding ceremony Ring

Dave researched jewelers in our space to search out Eternity Jewelers. Tom, the proprietor, is a real artist, and we despatched inspiration images to him to get began. After seeing the primary draft, we realized we would have liked to go a special course with our design and despatched over some artwork nouveau-inspired ring designs. Dave and I labored along with Tom to create my good ring for our gothic marriage ceremony.

My ring is a lab-created purple sapphire in a modified cushion lower. The platinum band has thorny rose stems going up the edges of the ring and a rose set with mint cubic zirconia within the heart on either side of the sapphire. The purple sapphire seems to be held in place by rose thorns. I needed the purple sapphire as a result of Dave’s birthstone is sapphire, and my favourite shade is purple. The frosty mint gem stones signify our new surname.

I want lab-created stones for thus many causes! First, lab-created stones are blood-free, which means nobody dies mining them. Second, they’re extra sensible and excellent than pure gem stones. Third, they’re eco-friendly and sustainable. Fourth, lab-created stones are a lot stronger and extra sturdy than pure. Fifth, they’re very budget-friendly! The overwhelming majority of the price of my ring was from the valuable platinum metallic and the ability required to design and work it. I doubt I’ll ever buy a pure stone once more now that I do know the prevalence and sustainability of lab-created stones.

My Gothic Wedding ceremony Make-up

Mickey's Makeup Kit

Mickey has a gentle touch as he applies multichromes to Cordelia's eyes

For each my personal ceremony and large household marriage ceremony to my ex, I did my very own make-up and hair. This time round, I’m eternally grateful that my finest pal Mickey supplied to do my hair and make-up. Mickey is aware of my face higher than I do know it. He all the time does an incredible job of constructing me really feel lovely. Mickey used a mixture of make-up from his equipment and a few of my private assortment. Beneath is what I bear in mind Mickey utilizing.

I wore my Foxblood jumpsuits all weekend lengthy, earlier than and after the marriage, as a result of they’re comfy, black, and have pockets.

Mickey applying Pat McGrath highlighter

Mattress Head Mess Behave Deep Hair Waver (to place large mermaid waves into my waist size hair)


Cordelia's Gothic Wedding Makeup

Smashbox 24 Hour Eyeshadow Primer
Violet Voss Violet Sundown Palette (mattes)
Soften Not too long ago Deceased Palette  (mattes)
Anastasia Norvina 3 Palette (mattes)
Terra Moons Moon Tide
Fyrinnae Northwest Night time
Pat McGrath Motherships
Thrive Causemetics Liquid Lash Extensions Mascara
Kiss Rhinestone Lashes
Swarovsky Crystals on the face (utilized with lash glue)
Anastasia Dip Brows

Danessa Myricks Imaginative and prescient Cowl Cream in N01
Auric Glow Lust in Morganite 2.0
Laura Mercier Translucent Free Setting Powder
Kab Cosmetics Contour Palette (Translucent, Nude, Vanilla Bean, Uncooked, Sand, and Banana)
Pat McGrath Elegant Pores and skin Highlighting Trio
Pat McGrath Motherships
Juvia’s Place Saharan Blush Palette
KimChi Stylish Magnificence Matte Setting Spray

Black Moon Sleepwalker Liquid Lipstick
Danessa Myricks Multichrome Palette (patted on high of Sleepwalker)

Ultimate Ideas

David and Cordelia happily married

I’m trying ahead to sharing the skilled marriage ceremony images with you and hope that you simply loved these candid gothic marriage ceremony images. Dave and I are so glad! I’m grateful that we had been in a position to have a marriage that was significant to us with killer outfits that we will rewear.

I hope you loved this peek into our gothic marriage ceremony and that it conjures up you to plan your subsequent occasion in a means that’s significant to you!


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